This one's a private issue but since my public blog is mostly read by me, I decided that this self-expression won't do any harm.
http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Suffer-From-Maladaptive-Daydreaming/304795
http://www.squidoo.com/maladaptive-daydreaming-what-is-it
I have always loved the fact that I have a vivid imagining ability..but there came a time, triggered by emotional breakdowns and life being stubborn in general, that I started daydreaming excessively..same repetitive scenarios and hours spent daydreaming about them..to the point that I could not start doing anything productive till the story in my imagination had reached it's proper conclusion. It became so bad that I frantically started searching online to get a grip on my life and snatch it back from my wayward imagination.I then came across a term : "Maladaptive Daydreaming" and reading about it was almost epiphanic..and with it came the happy relief that there are others too who experience this kind of weirdness. I joined support groups and inaugurated my joining by commenting on a post by a fellow MD-er :
"Hi 'X' , An unrelated Query : are you from India ? if yes, then me too, sister! :) Well, I suffer from MD though I would not use the word "suffer" or "disorder" etc as for me daydreaming is not necessarily a negative thing. But as we all have experienced, excessive daydreaming cuts down our productivity and whether we like it or not, we have to come back, survive and succeed in the "real" world. Recently I have been daydreaming excessively and am trying to cope up. Searching for remedial measures led me to your post.From my experience, though I do daydream regularly, the amount is directly proportional to the level of discontent, unhappiness in my life.I have been disturbed lately due to some issues and as a result, take refuge in my imaginary world where things are working out fine. It is a form of escapism but also a gift..I think we just have to optimize the level of our imagination so that it doesnt take a toll on us.So what I would suggest to you is (and what i try to do too) to try and solve the problems in your life slowly as the lesser they are, the lesser MD you will do.If that is not a feasible option, at least try and get involved in activities so that spend less time alone in your room. And yes make good friends to whom you can share your life's troubles etc..it reallyy helps of if you have positivity in the real life. My way to deal with this was to chat excessively online, but even though they are "real, living people", most people essentially have their own agendas to chat online and few become true friends. chatting too much is also escapism.What we can do is (as i m facing the problem again) is we can create daily charts and slowly go towards a goal wherein MD more than x amount of time is not permitted. Meanwhile identify things doing which makes you happy, and focus on them. I would love to talk more with you and provide you the necessary support with this.remember, we are the masters (or mistresses, if you will :)) of our own destiny, whether imaginary or real, and most of us do not lead perfect lives... vivid imagination is a gift when used well, but its like an addictive drug so too much will only make us more depressed when we come back to reality. So focus on your career and interests, daydream too, it gives a kind of pleasure/happiness only we can understand but keep it under control. Mail me at leenniecal@yahoo.com if you feel like."
Today I thought that if I ever feel like wanting a person to know me well...I might ask him to read through my blog and though I have not written much, I thought of starting with this particular facet of my persona. It is a good start to learn about my weirdness and it is also something of a difficulty for me..at certain stages...much like an unruly horse who can be a precious gift if tackled optimally (apologies for the terrible analogy). Of late, I feel pretty stabilized and much in control and though I let my imagination flow, I do not feel threatened by it's current. This feels comfortable. I can perhaps write many more words about this, but today being a day where I wanted to share something about me without writing too much as way of explanation, I am copy-pasting my pre-written pieces on this topic.
http://www.meetup.com/Maladaptive-Daydreamers-Compulsive-Fantasizers/members/74574542/
It feels a bit weird to post things that one never intended the entire world to see, but I am probably doing it as my blog is pretty much a solitary being in the blog-world. And yes the weird thought which Really prompted me to do this is that someday if I meet a stranger and really like him, the idea of detailing everything about me through extensive conversations(though it maybe a nice exploratory journey for both) seems tiring ( probably because these settings have been enacted before and cynicism has replaced much of the childish romantic dreams I had..or maybe not..) and therefore reading the blog would be a window to my self...I was reading a few blogs today and it is amazing that how much of the depth of a person's being can come out in theses digital diaries. I might see the same people everyday and assume a 1-D view of their personalities but reading their penned-down thoughts & experiencing the richness of their character always amazes me every time. Someday, someone might read my blog and wonder the same.....
http://www.experienceproject.com/groups/Suffer-From-Maladaptive-Daydreaming/304795
http://www.squidoo.com/maladaptive-daydreaming-what-is-it
I have always loved the fact that I have a vivid imagining ability..but there came a time, triggered by emotional breakdowns and life being stubborn in general, that I started daydreaming excessively..same repetitive scenarios and hours spent daydreaming about them..to the point that I could not start doing anything productive till the story in my imagination had reached it's proper conclusion. It became so bad that I frantically started searching online to get a grip on my life and snatch it back from my wayward imagination.I then came across a term : "Maladaptive Daydreaming" and reading about it was almost epiphanic..and with it came the happy relief that there are others too who experience this kind of weirdness. I joined support groups and inaugurated my joining by commenting on a post by a fellow MD-er :
"Hi 'X' , An unrelated Query : are you from India ? if yes, then me too, sister! :) Well, I suffer from MD though I would not use the word "suffer" or "disorder" etc as for me daydreaming is not necessarily a negative thing. But as we all have experienced, excessive daydreaming cuts down our productivity and whether we like it or not, we have to come back, survive and succeed in the "real" world. Recently I have been daydreaming excessively and am trying to cope up. Searching for remedial measures led me to your post.From my experience, though I do daydream regularly, the amount is directly proportional to the level of discontent, unhappiness in my life.I have been disturbed lately due to some issues and as a result, take refuge in my imaginary world where things are working out fine. It is a form of escapism but also a gift..I think we just have to optimize the level of our imagination so that it doesnt take a toll on us.So what I would suggest to you is (and what i try to do too) to try and solve the problems in your life slowly as the lesser they are, the lesser MD you will do.If that is not a feasible option, at least try and get involved in activities so that spend less time alone in your room. And yes make good friends to whom you can share your life's troubles etc..it reallyy helps of if you have positivity in the real life. My way to deal with this was to chat excessively online, but even though they are "real, living people", most people essentially have their own agendas to chat online and few become true friends. chatting too much is also escapism.What we can do is (as i m facing the problem again) is we can create daily charts and slowly go towards a goal wherein MD more than x amount of time is not permitted. Meanwhile identify things doing which makes you happy, and focus on them. I would love to talk more with you and provide you the necessary support with this.remember, we are the masters (or mistresses, if you will :)) of our own destiny, whether imaginary or real, and most of us do not lead perfect lives... vivid imagination is a gift when used well, but its like an addictive drug so too much will only make us more depressed when we come back to reality. So focus on your career and interests, daydream too, it gives a kind of pleasure/happiness only we can understand but keep it under control. Mail me at leenniecal@yahoo.com if you feel like."
Today I thought that if I ever feel like wanting a person to know me well...I might ask him to read through my blog and though I have not written much, I thought of starting with this particular facet of my persona. It is a good start to learn about my weirdness and it is also something of a difficulty for me..at certain stages...much like an unruly horse who can be a precious gift if tackled optimally (apologies for the terrible analogy). Of late, I feel pretty stabilized and much in control and though I let my imagination flow, I do not feel threatened by it's current. This feels comfortable. I can perhaps write many more words about this, but today being a day where I wanted to share something about me without writing too much as way of explanation, I am copy-pasting my pre-written pieces on this topic.
http://www.meetup.com/Maladaptive-Daydreamers-Compulsive-Fantasizers/members/74574542/
It feels a bit weird to post things that one never intended the entire world to see, but I am probably doing it as my blog is pretty much a solitary being in the blog-world. And yes the weird thought which Really prompted me to do this is that someday if I meet a stranger and really like him, the idea of detailing everything about me through extensive conversations(though it maybe a nice exploratory journey for both) seems tiring ( probably because these settings have been enacted before and cynicism has replaced much of the childish romantic dreams I had..or maybe not..) and therefore reading the blog would be a window to my self...I was reading a few blogs today and it is amazing that how much of the depth of a person's being can come out in theses digital diaries. I might see the same people everyday and assume a 1-D view of their personalities but reading their penned-down thoughts & experiencing the richness of their character always amazes me every time. Someday, someone might read my blog and wonder the same.....
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